How People Pleasing Shows up with Internalized Oppression
The story in your head goes, “I’m the problem. And since I’m the problem, I better make sure everyone else is always at ease. Because of me. The way I move. The things I do. The way my very being threatens others.”
This story has been embedded in you. Not because you truly own it, but because the world around you has made you feel unwelcome in your body and skin. So it’s just easier. Just make them comfortable, right?
But where does that leave you?
In Between Cultures and Lonely
For adult daughters of immigrants, part of what gives rise to feeling “too much” or “not enough” comes from the messages received from growing up in a culture outside of our heritage cultures.
Being in a new culture may have been born out of both hope and sacrifice. Your families were focused on survival, safety, finding a better life, and through these journeys, community, cultural, and family togetherness may have been fragmented.